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Discharged Cadet Shows Honor and Pride While Fighting US Military's Ban On HIV+ Soldiers

Imagine that your life's dream was almost obtained, but then you were casted out for something you thought would never happen.

Cadet Kevin Deese was discharged from the United States Navy after a routine blood test found that he was HIV-positive.  The 2014 blood test was one month before Deese was to take part in the U.S. Naval Academy's May graduation. Officials told Deese that he would be allowed to graduate but he would not be commissioned.

In an interview with TheBody.com, Deese shared:

So April Fool's Day 2014, I'm eating lunch in the dining hall with my best friend, and a lieutenant I didn't know comes over and ushers me to the commandant's office, which is like the dean of students. "It's not a good reason that you're here," the commandant says, and I start to panic. What did I do? Was I in trouble? I had no idea why. Then he tells me that I tested positive for HIV and my heart just dropped. It was not something I thought I had been at risk for. Then he says that I will not be commissioning as an officer along with my classmates. It was a double whammy -- so much stigma and shame, everything I had worked for and that the Naval Academy had paid to educate me for. So I spoke with the chaplain and the brigade medical officer. "We're not going to abandon you," they said. But really no one had my back. It was presented as very cut-and-dry with no possibility to get a waiver, no process. One of the commandants had prepared talking points for me and had scrawled "not a death sentence" on a Post-It note

We could not imagine the pressure and stress of going through with the graduation and then needing to tell all why you were not continuing with your military career and on top of that, telling them that you were HIV+. 

In a recent Facebook Post, Deese wrote:

I’m a little scared but determined to take additional action by putting out to the world that I am an HIV-positive gay man who’s here for people who don’t feel they can or should be out as being positive – and who’s not here for your HIV stigma, society.

NowThis worked with Deese to put together this video of his story. 

AS stated in the video, Deese, who is gay, has joined an ongoing legal battle to remove this outdated policy. 

  • 1985 - 1st Screening of Military Applicants for HIV screening applicants for HIV in 1985.
     
  • 1991 - Under George H.W.Bush, the Military Banned HIV-Positive Applicants
     
  • 2018 - "Deploy, Or Get Out" - Trump's New Policy requires Military to discharge any service member who cannot be deployed for at least 12 months. People living with HIV are automatically disqualified from deployment. 

Best of luck Kevin in your suit against the Government. Your courage is noted, appreciated, and envied. It takes a strong individual to rise above not one but two life changing occurrences all at the same time. 

We know it has been hard and will be hard. Deese recently shared the following on his Facebook page. 

Content warning: Quotes from people with a lot of ignorance and not a lot of compassion. Could be hard for people living with or affected by HIV to read.
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"I wouldn't want to be near you at the mall let alone on the field while bleeding to death"
"They dont want your hiv blood on everything your putting others at risk"
"What I don't like about this guy is he's willing to put other people's lives and health at risk. Very selfish!"
"Your a liability"
"Why does he feel so entitled?"
"Get over it."

Thank you to NowThis for sharing my story. I wasn't sure what to expect when I agreed to do this. Maybe reading the comments was a mistake, but it at least confirmed what we've always known: we have a long way to go in educating people on HIV in general (treatment as prevention, transmission risks, etc.) - and obviously specifically in the military context (i.e. people living with HIV currently serve in the military, there are many jobs in the Navy that don't involve getting shot at, etc.).

I'd be lying if I said the personal attacks aren't hard to read, but it makes a world of difference knowing the support I have behind me. Thank you to anyone who's ever voiced their support; it means more than you can know.

But enough about me...happy World AIDS Day to all; may we take a moment to remember all those who died and those who still die today because they cannot access treatment.


h/t: thegavoice.com, thebody.com, Kevin Deese's Facebook Page

What Are People Learning About HIV/AIDS In The PrEP Era? What Are Serosorting, 'Inevitable’ Transmission, and U=U?

Out of sight, out of mind. HIV/AIDS is not in the news, it is not mentioned as much as it used to be, and is considered a non-issue for many. So why do we care?  Why are we not caring as much anymore?  It seems the closest discussions our community has around HIV/AIDS is the debate about PrEP, But is PrEP more about not halting the  spread of HIV, but so people can believe they don't have to wear condoms? Are we fogetting why we are wearing condoms in the first place? PrEP = no condoms, oh yeah, and that things about AIDS.

Do we need a shot in the arm to remember that HIV/AIDS is out there? I recall the one time a former partner told me he was HIV positive. While waiting for my test results, I had some of the longest hot showers ever, just standing there, thinking, wondering, worrying.

Most of us don't stop and think about 'IT' as much as we used to. But some of us are still fighting the fight personally, while others are fighting the fight so others do not have to think about it as much as before.  Gareth Johnson, from MainlyMale.com, caught up with Chase Ledin to talk about his research into HIV and AIDS.

What drew you to the study of HIV in the UK and US?

I come in contact with HIV every day — when I log onto Grindr, when I talk queer theory with my colleagues, and when I explain the historical trends of sexual health, wellness, and queer culture to my students. Though I am seronegative, I’m asked to negotiate behaviours within the realm of serosorting.

I came out in a time period distinctly after the first-wave HIV epidemic. This period has saturated most spheres of my life with the message that HIV is treatable. This narrative is part of my shared-community history of queer kinship — it’s uniquely removed from the devastation of the ‘lost’ generation.

My inquiries started with undergraduate studies exploring queer literary history, especially invested in MSM socioeconomic histories, their queer community histories, and their sexual encounters before and during the first-wave epidemic. I was drawn into HIV studies when exposed to the works of Sarah Schulman, Tim Dean, Samuel R. Delany, Christopher Castiglia, and Christopher Reed. These scholars expressed concern about an ideological shift of social contact and the subsequent ‘gentrification’ — alteration, forgetting, erasure, departure — of queer history.

Introducing deeply unnerving case studies about perceptions of the HIV epidemic, many of these authors responded to public discourses constructing the AIDS epidemic as an ‘isolating event’ that estranged social practices and altered localities within queer history — such as bathhouses, sex clubs, bars, literary salons, and queer camping. I found myself attracted to the arguments because they pointed at a social juncture and existential dread that many gay men experience even today — the legacy of HIV and its perpetual complication of queer life.

I probed the archive for specific examples of ‘departure’ in queer history during my master’s coursework. I was drawn to the work of Andrew Sullivan — especially his 1996 article in The New York Times, When Plagues End. Sullivan spoke of a rupture within the primary AIDS narrative. He most likely sought to construct a departure of medical categories — HIV/AIDS — providing unique foresight to the ‘end of AIDS’ as a widespread and deadly disease which could be replaced by the chronic wonders of anti-retroviral therapies. Instead, his article was received as a premature and swift departure from the memorialisation that hung over US and UK communities. Sullivan’s proclamation permeated cultural discourses about HIV. His work colluded with larger structural changes, such as international efforts to provide HIV medicine to countries in Africa, and allowed for a larger dismantling of the AIDS=Death narrative.

My professional and doctoral work looks closely at the changes in queer health and period immediately following the epidemic — 1996–2012. Part of contemporary thinking about the epidemic and continued transmission relates to a narrative that says young queers ‘lack’ empathy. Whether or not this is true, this mode of thinking says that the HIV epidemic at large derives its power from insufficient standardised settings — such as education systems, and accessible and appropriate forms of queer consumerism.

The ‘lack’ of queer-initiated and sub-cultural norms — as LGBT folk are mainstreamed — is the absence of queer-specific tactics for managing sexual, emotional, and mental health, instead directing individuals to private, corporate, or national entities that manage queer care ‘outside’ of the queer sphere. An important other narrative within this mode of thinking suggests that the ‘lack’ within the ‘post-AIDS period — after 1996 — is an inability to speak candidly about the devastation and the unwillingness to signify sexual practices largely at play during the epidemic period. As this public narrative suggests, HIV and STIs can be managed and suppressed by highly-effective contemporary medicine — the urgency to tackle issues of gonorrhoea, syphilis, and chronic HIV is reserved for specialists, and community members are free to focus on social issues and developing a new status quo.

The ‘lack’ or ‘gap’ in historical empathy is sometimes mistakenly written in popular media as a wilful rejection of queer history and the differentiation of queer generations. The ‘gap’ in empathy for queers who do not have direct access to mentors who maintain oral histories before, during, and after the epidemic is not a fault of their own but a larger systemic ‘lack’ that can’t be solved by establishing a narrative of generational difference. In order to understand how we can resolve the ‘epidemic pain’ endemic to generational difference, and how we can provide a foundation of care within digitally-facilitated sexual interactions, we need to uncover how the epidemic has positively impacted queer contact in the twenty-first century and how queer markets can expand to better educate queer demographics.

My research analyses how this epidemic event, and its subsequent waves in the US and UK, continues to serve as an underlying informant that threads every booming neo-liberal sexual market. Every market item, including PEP, PrEP, and advanced sexual devices, is informed by the ‘epidemic pain’ turned into possibility for an easier sexual, social, romantic, and cultural life for queers. Sexual markets are saturated by viral discourses. Forgetting the pain of the epidemic period is not erasing the agentic and forward-thinking tactics of those brave ACT UP and Queer Nation activists, and does not remove the virus from our queer realities. Instead, these markets integrate the ‘pain’ from lessons learned and enable the proliferation of systemic change, even when such change cannot be reflected in each queer individual.

Is it important that young gay guys, who are beginning to learn about sex in the era of PrEP, have an understanding of what the medical and social history of HIV has been?

Young queers have an obligation to learn about viral history because it pertains to their sexual well-being, and because queer history provides extensive examples and opportunities for developing empathy and experiencing psychological ‘likeness.’ Both sexual well-being and empathy help to build a healthy queer individual.

Learning about the extent of the devastation is not necessary inasmuch as understanding the social and cultural tactics for confronting a ‘plague’ that was denigrated to gay men. When we learn from positive reactions to negative situations — such as ACT UP’s activism against the CDC ignoring requests for rapid anti-retroviral approval — we inculcate tactics to develop queer community.

Perhaps the number-one reason why generational tensions emerge is failure to engage with others’ life experiences. When handed an opportunity to reflect upon the past, especially a sexual past arguably all queers share, young queers should, in the least, cultivate a critical awareness of physical, psychological, and ideological barriers rampant during the 1980s and 1990s that, perhaps more covertly, continue to thrive today.

In the least, young queers must learn that HIV doesn’t discriminate based on sexual orientation. Young queers should integrate sexual history into their daily lives especially because serosorting and HIV stigma are common practices within the queer community. Stigma is derived from lack of social and medical contexts in addition to cultural and historical contexts. One systemic solution to HIV stigma emerges from the standardisation of queer life in educational settings, providing plain-fact science in addition to multiple cultural contexts for queer life across human existence. Even if young queers are to integrate this information from outside of institutions, they must, in the least, learn communication methods for introducing, analysing, and ‘unpacking’ these big ideas with their friends and partners.

I was quite moved by Matthew Hodson’s recent article, which reminded me that the ‘lack’ of our post-AIDS period is defined by a lack opportunities for practising cultural acculturation. Young queers hardly ever have opportunities to critically respond to queer messaging, especially since they’re not taught anything significant about queer life in standardised educational settings — and especially because queer adult life rarely mandates the exchange of ideas between experienced and inexperienced queers.

The myth of the ‘gay disease,’ for example, is substantiated by skewed numbers — queers who align with such a theory must continue to explore the vast archive of HIV and queer history to understand that queer life is not defined by a ‘gay’ disease. Importantly, by accessing these resources, young queers can build safe and respectful communities having learned from those who have come before them.

Is there a unified and consistent queer narrative regarding the experience of gay men with HIV and AIDS, or are there competing narratives?

There are competing narratives and will always be competing narratives regarding HIV. Today’s increasingly popular narrative is U=U, or undetectable equals untransmittable, which emerged in recent years. We also continue to have narratives that find their roots in the first-wave epidemic, such as serosorting. Serosorting is a common practice for many queer men. Many use serosorting to reject seropositive partners as a prevention tactic. Naturally, the problem created by this social narrative of exclusion, in order to prevent, ignores science and begs an updated understanding of HIV transmission and safer-sex tactics.

Another widely held narrative is the belief in ‘inevitable’ transmission, which, though less common than the former two, also derives its significance from the first-wave epidemic. This narrative suggests that, whether or not HIV is treatable, a large portion of gay male populations partaking in ‘risky’ sex are liable to acquire HIV, so it’s better to receive the virus as quickly as possible in order to start anti-retrovirals and continue with sexual practices. These three are not an exhaustive list but certainly some of the most prevalent in contemporary public discourse.

What are some of the current areas of focus for your study?

My current focus is on chronic medicine and how anti-retroviral technologies — before PrEP — changed queer life. For instance, I’m exploring perceptions of ARV adherence during the treatment era, and narratives that explore the boundaries of life ‘after’ HIV. There are a number of authors who continue to toe the line between ‘chronic’ narratives and ‘life without HIV’ speculation, which introduces a new element of ‘anticipation’ or ‘future’ unlike in AIDS discourse defined by terminal illness. My research focuses on the historical development of HIV in the UK, but is by no means isolated from the global expansion of HIV treatment and technologies.

I’m also working on a monograph about the representation and disclosure of HIV through body modifications and tattoos.


Follow Chase Ledin on Twitter


Content republished with permission from Gareth Johnson, from MainlyMale.com

Originally from Australia, Gareth now lives in London. A non-smoker who loves to laugh, Gareth writes about all aspects of the LGBTQ experiences, with a particular passion for travel, sport, and films.

HIV Diagnoses Rose Faster Among Young Gay, Bisexual Men, New Study Says

Do you think the youth of America are getting tested? Are teens and twenty somethings taking the responsibility and testing for HIV?

New data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) show that HIV diagnoses are rising faster for young men who have sex with men (MSM) than for their older MSM peers. However, the extent to which the rates are being driven by increased testing or by an increase in transmission is unclear.

The CDC reported that between 2008-2016, the annual number of new HIV diagnoses among young MSM (those aged 13-29) increased by 3 percent per year, while decreasing 4 percent per year among MSM aged 30-49, and remaining virtually unchanged for MSM over the age of 50. Overall, the number of new infections among the youngest cohort of MSM was four times higher than among the 50-plus age group, MD Magazine reports. - mdmagazine.com

So are younger men getting tested more and therefore being diagnosed more?  Are the "older" men not getting tested as much?

Andrew Mitsch, MPH, an epidemiologist with the CDC’s Division of HIV/AIDS Prevention, said the age-cohort disparities themselves were not a surprise, but he and his colleagues were struck by the size of the gaps. However, Mitsch told MD Magazine® the increase in diagnoses among young MSM might not be due to risky behavior.

“The increase in annual HIV diagnoses among younger gay and bisexual males might reflect increased HIV testing, in addition to ongoing transmission,” he said. “Our report suggests that the public health community and partners are reaching more members of this vulnerable group with HIV testing. It’s important to note, however, that some younger gay and bisexual males—like American Indian and Asian—are presenting at diagnosis with advanced immunosuppression.” - mdmagazine.com

But here in Wilton Manors, it seems every Friday and Saturday night there is at least one mobile testing center parked near one of the 14 gay bars on Wilton Drive. In my head, I'm thinking ... I hope the young men of our community are using this service.  Maybe I should just be thinking every gay man should be taking advantage of this service.  

Of course, when ever we mention HIV these days, the PrEP debate/usage comes up as well.

One issue hanging over the discussion is utilization rates of PrEP, the pre-exposure prophylactic. Overall usage remains very low and varies widely by region. A letter published in the New England Journal of Medicine earlier this month highlighted some of those disparities.

“[T]hough the CDC estimates that more than 1.1 million people in the United States would benefit from PrEP, it has been prescribed to less than 150,000 people since it went on the market,” wrote Robert H. Goldstein, MD, PhD, of Massachusetts General Hospital, and colleagues. “Of these prescriptions, nearly 75% went to white gay or bisexual men, predominantly those living in the Northeast or on the West Coast.”

Mitsch agreed that access to PrEP remains an issue, but he said awareness is also a challenge.
“There is still work to do to increase knowledge of PrEP among both health care providers and a broader population of people who would benefit from its use,” he said. - mdmagazine.com

The best thing for all of this is communication.  Communication with your doctors, with your partners, and even with your friends.  Even a heated debate is one where HIV/AIDS is being discussed. It's a topic, a worry, a concern that will be with us for many years to come. 

When was the last time you were tested?  I get tested twice every year, once in April (my birth month) and once at Thanksgiving. It's just easy for me to remember and it's now habit since 1998, when I became sexually active. And to be honest, there are years where I have more tests than sexual partners. 

Do you have a personal schedule for getting tested? Or do you wait until you think you might have "a scare" and then get tested?


h/t: mdmagazine.com

THE DISAPPOINTMENTS - New Web Series Focusing On An Overlooked LGBTQ Generation. Can You Relate?

At the age of 44, I've apparently passed into gay death as well as suffered normal mid-life crisis time. Neither one is promising at all. What is there to look forward to? Which one of my nieces or nephews is going to help make sure my old gay shell of am man is taken care of when I get older? Did I plan right so I don't need someone else's assistance.  Yep, they always said plan for later.  Well, later is coming up pretty soon. 

Someone must have heard my thoughts and concerns for a new web series is looking to address these issues?  Will they give me some pointers? Make me realize I am not alone? Do it all with a chuckle and maybe a cry?  I think all of the above.

Based on actual events, THE DISAPPOINTMENTS is a darkly comedic web series that looks at pivotal issues men face as they navigate their 50’s: What do you do when you realize that time is running short, the road behind you is longer than the road ahead, and your job, your relationship, or lack thereof, and your life has not turned out the way you had hoped and planned when you were young? 

Rocked by the suicide of one of their own, a successful television producer, these men are forced to face the failures and disappointments found in their own lives; the fallout from faltering careers, empty bank accounts, the scrambling to figure out how to reinvent themselves, and setting themselves up to survive in the decades yet to come.

What makes this series important and why it needs to be made is that is shines a light on a vital segment of the LGBTQ community -- a rapidly increasing population of LGBTQ aging boomers-- that currently isn’t reflected in mainstream media or even in gay culture.

The project launches this week with an Indiogogo campaign to raise funds for the production of entire first season. As of publication time, fundraising was of to a good healthy start.

Screenwriter Rich Burns, whose credits include Disney animated movies, a Netflix TV series, and a soon-to-be produced gay-themed WWII feature based on his Outfest Award-winning screenplay “The Dunes of Overveen, is the series creator. He states:

The idea came from a dark place, actually. A few of us were at dinner, talking about a good friend -- a gay Hollywood producer -- who, depressed and struggling with money and career problems, had taken his own life. And he wasn’t the first. We knew others who had done the same thing, all within the last couple of years. These were gay men in their 40’s and 50’s, all of them hitting that age and suddenly feeling hopeless.

The story is told through the author’s unique and darkly comedic voice. “The series is painfully funny. These characters identify where they’ve fallen short and then take desperate action to turn their disappointing lives around. Most of their choices are ill-advised and the results are often straight-up disastrous.” 

The characters on this journey include;

- a hot, silver fox-type screenwriter, who, aging and struggling in his career, hopes to keep himself afloat until that next script sells by moving in with a rich, gorgeous and much younger boyfriend,

- a former sitcom star from the early 80’s who lately has been performing in truncated Broadway shows on cruise ships,

-  an unemployed actor with an estranged daughter who finds himself to be an unemployed department store fragrance salesman after an ugly meltdown in the makeup aisle,

and a host of other colorful characters both gay and straight.

The cast of actors include:

- James Campbell, (Broadway’s Forever Plaid)

- Michael Corbett (Two time Emmy winner, one of the hosts of the TV show Extra, Broadway veteran and former Young and the Restless star)

- Tom Berklund (Broadway’s A Chorus Line, The Addams Family, The Normal Heart). 

Campbell says all the actors were all drawn to this project for different reasons.

"For me it’s an opportunity to bring to light, some of the struggles, hopes, dreams and fears which we all shared, but had not necessarily shared so openly.” Corbett agrees and adds: “I know so many friends and colleagues in the community that just aren’t ready or prepared for this next life chapter, and the scripts really take you on their journey as you cry and laugh at the same time.”

The series in currently in the fundraising stages and looking for even more support from the LQTBQ community to hit their goals and begin production.  The Indiegogo campaign launched this week to a very successful start. 

Why did the team decide to go the crowd fund raising route? According to Burns:

The landscape of television and movies is constantly shifting, with streaming services leading the charge. Content is king and more and more people are bypassing the traditional routes, taking matters into their own hands. And the results can be astonishingly good. Our team has been inspired by filmmakers who have broken with the traditional paths to financing in order to protect their creative integrity. Coming directly to the audience to crowdfund our budget allows us to do the same.

To learn more about the show and watch a teaser video that gives a hint of what’s to come, click this link -- and donate! livepage.apple.com . We'll also include the video below.

 

(Photos and information courtesy of 'The Disappointments')

Men: Breast Cancer Symptons You May Need To Look Out For

"Men think they don’t have breast tissue, but they do."

Those were words Dr. Kristen Fernandez, medical director of the breast center at the MedStar Franklin Square Medical Center in Maryland shared with MensHealth.com

When I think of men and breast cancer, I think of two very different things, man boobs and 9/11. 

It was recently shared in the New York Post that over a dozen men who were near Ground Zero have breast cancer.

“I was a healthy man before,” said Silverstein, an Army veteran who has lived in Battery Park for 30 years.

The breast-cancer cases are just the latest tragic saga in the health woes of those who spent time at Ground Zero.

Nearly 10,000 people have suffered cancers linked to the toxic dust and smoke, the World Trade Center Health program reported. - New York Post

And of course having man boobs does not mean you are more susceptible to get breast cancer. It just means you have man boobs. Some more food for thought, when you develop glandular tissue in your breasts—as opposed to fat tissue—it's called gynecomastia. The culprits behind full-fledged man boobs largely have to do with your hormones (8 Things That Might Be Giving You Man Boobs - MensHealth.com)

Men have less breast tissue than women making the risk of breast cancer nearly nil, but it is still there.

We cis men of course have a bigger risk of testicular cancer, because, well, we have those round things down there, some even have three. The extra testicle is usually found in the left sac of the scrotum and it is often detected around age 18. Most often, men with polyorchidism will have three testicles but the record stands at five. We occasionally should check for pain or lumps in our basket of goodies, but how often do we check our breast tissue?


All people, whether male or female, are born with some breast cells and tissue. Even though males do not develop milk-producing breasts, a man’s breast cells and tissue can still develop cancer. Even so, male breast cancer is very rare. Less than one percent of all breast cancer cases develop in men, and only one in a thousand men will ever be diagnosed with breast cancer.

Breast cancer in men is usually detected as a hard lump underneath the nipple and areola. Men carry a higher mortality than women do, primarily because awareness among men is less and they are less likely to assume a lump is breast cancer, which can cause a delay in seeking treatment.  - Nationalbreastcancer.org


October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month.  Do you know what to look out for?  Dr. Kristen Fernandez shared with MensHealth these four symptoms of breast cancer that guys should watch out for.

Lumps

Inverted Nipple

Nipple Discahrge

Open Sores

For more description on the above and the full article, head over to Menshealth.com.

When it comes to testicular cancer, do you need big or small ones?  Not at all.  So when it comes to the chest/breasts, fit or fat, big or small, do you check your breasts?  Let's take care of ourselves guys.

h/t:  Nationalbreastcancer.org, Menshealth.com, New York Post

 

How Much Do You Know About The Science Behind Who We Are?

Being a member of the rainbow family, it doesn't mean we know everything about other members, other letters of our alphabet soup. I have a lot to learn about the T,QQIAA, fluidity and so on. So when there is a chance to learn more, I take it.

What can science tell us about gender identity and gender dysphoria? This week AsapSCIENCE breaks down the science of being transgender in an educational and respectful way with the help of Gigi Gorgeous.

 

 

 

Of course, most of the people that are against us still believe that science cannot be used to explain science, dinosaurs, and global warming, but at least we can educate yourself.

  All photos are screen shots from The Science of Being Transgender ft. Gigi Gorgeous

Created by: Mitchell Moffit and Gregory Brown
Written by: Jodre Datu, Greg Brown and Mitch Moffit
Illustrated by: Max Simmons
Edited by: Sel Ghebrehiwot
Narrated by: Mitch Moffit

New York Aspiring Stripper Faces Life In Prison

New York Aspiring Stripper Faces Life In Prison


Geoffrey Tracy Claims Roommate Tried Molesting Him!

According to Back2Stonewall, Bodybuilder and Aspiring Stripper, Geoffrey Tracy stabbed his 50-year-old, gay roommate, Gregory Kanczes, last month in New York. Tracy pleaded not guilty, claiming self-defense as he was being molested while he slept. Self-defense … but Kanczes was stabbed 16 times, hmm. Tracy has changed his story on the stab-ation and was stoned during the attack. It appears the two roommates slept in the same bed together.

Yikes! Talk about taking a roommate argument to the next level! I mean, sure, sometimes you truly blow your gasket when dishes are left in the sink for too long or the shower stains have gotten to be too much, but a sane, grown person would never actually murder their roommate.


 
 
 
 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Messy hair  don’t care  #happysunday

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Kanzces was taken to the hospital in critical condition and his current status remains unclear.

Tracy pleaded not guilty to attempted murder this week, even turning down a plea deal. If convicted, he’ll face life without parole.


This sounds like a tale as old as time in the gay community. A young-lost boy begins living with an older man with promises of a better life. The older “roommate” clearly wants more than just a platonic roommate and sex is put on the free-rent agreement.  There a desire and then a demand of some affection for his generosity, but unfortunately, the younger roommate just wants a place to crash.

We need to think using both heads people. Both parties may be in the wrong here. May the stabbing victim Kanzces have a quick recovery and hopefully Tracy will not be wielding a knife to end any arguments in the near future.


Writer’s Note: This is the opinion of one Instinct Contributor and does not reflect the views of Instinct Magazine itself or the other contributing Writers.

Back Door Prep: More Straight Men Are Anal Bleaching & Shaving. For The Same Reasons We Do?

How Spa-tastic are you?  Here's the grocery list of spa treatments I've had done at the hands of someone else.

  • Manicures - I've tried manicures twice, but I seem to get more hang nails after than I ever had before. Manis are permanently off my list. 
     
  • Pedicures - That is my go to treatment.  Give me a pedicure and that massage chair for 40 minutes and just take my money.  I'll gladly pay for a foot treatment at least once a month and I have even had one in an airport on a long lay-over and was well worth it.  Go ahead, buff those toe nails and maybe put a clear coat on.
     
  • Massages.  I'm a cheap man when it comes to massages and usually only get one if they are a gift from someone else (hint, hint).  One of the best I had was the 80-minute thermal energy massage in Punta Cana at the CHIC Resort (Travel Thursday: CHIC Resort Won Us Over With Its Staff, Relaxation, & Luxury).  I need to find that same treatment, but just more local and I will pay!
     
  • Facials - Well I am a bearded man so I did not think facials were worth it.  As part of my trip to Key west last month, I decided to try a facial at Ocean Key Resort & Spa (Travel Thursday: When Key West Calls, The Ocean Key Resort & Spa Has The Answer. ). Relaxing, cleansing, refreshing, and I would get it again.  For my first one, I went with a gentle facial and not a peel that I see some of my friends getting.  Maybe later.
     
  • Waxing - Can't do it.  It's not because of the pain, but instead, no matter all natural waxing or not, I break out like there's no tomorrow.  I don't need bacne/back acne, thanks.
     
  • Back buzz - (in place of the waxing) I'm guilty of having some extra extra back hair so usually 4 days or so before I travel to a place where my shirt may be off in public, I go into a friend's home salon and he buzzes my back.  He does other treatments and shavings there, but I've stuck with just the back for now.

Is that enough?   is that too much?  What else do you do?  Do you do more down there? Below the belt?

Related Post: What's the craziest naked thing you've done with a platonic friend?

I don't think any of those treatments make me more gay than the next guy or even more metrosexual.  I don't think any spa treatments reflect your Kinsey Scale number.  So when Menshealth.com shared a recent story about straight men getting anal bleaching done, I was like, "GOOD FOR THEM!"

Enrique Ramirez is a licensed esthetician. He’s been working in the salon industry for nearly two decades. Over the years, he’s provided a lot of different services to a lot of different people. But more recently, he’s been receiving inquiries from a specific demographic regarding a very specific service. More recently, he’s been getting straight guys asking about bleaching their butts.

For those who aren’t in the know, anal bleaching is a cosmetic procedure designed to lighten the color of the skin around the anus. (Porn, as well as the Kardashians, have been credited with helping to popularize the trend.) And while the procedure may seem extreme, not to mention costly (at his spa, the service costs $110 per session), the trend of below-the-belt grooming is not limited to his NYC-based clientele. And by "below the belt," we mean way below the belt. - Menshealth.com

Related Post: Shaving Your Butt. Looks Like Everyone Is Going There.

The numbers are on the rise for all men shaving more than their faces, shaving their boys, and making the other body opening more pearly white and we're not talking about the ears or the nose.

The Nivea for Men survey also found that almost 10% of guys regularly shaved their butts, and 24% admitted to having hopped on YouTube in search of instructions for how to do so safely. And they’re willing to enlist professionals to do the honors. - Menshealth.com

Head over to Menshealth.com to hear more about the Butt Reynolds and the Crack Daddy that one salon is offering at a new salon just for men that was opened because of the high demand and increase of male clients.

One salon owner says “I think anal [grooming] is becoming more accepted among men because women are more open to trying new sexual experiences, [pegging, bottoming, etc] and they want their men to be groomed."

Will I try anal bleaching?  Not sure.  I do keep the trunk of my car clean, even though no one ever uses it so maybe I should do the same for my body, just in case someone's junk needs to go in my trunk.


 

What is the extent of your grooming?

Are yu surprised that straight men are bleaching now?

Have you done anal bleaching and is it worth it?

 


h/t:  Menshealth.com

We Need to Stop and Give Thanks to Our Heroes. Moving MTV Video Gets Us in the Feels.

 

On August 23rd at 8/7c, Logo will be premiering Quiet Heroes, a documentary which focuses on two lesbian medical professionals who, during the peak of the AIDS crisis in Salt Lake City, become some of the only doctors willing to see AIDS patients in all of Utah. To connect the film to the modern-day HIV/AIDS epidemic, MTV created a short PSA that highlights the modern day “heroes” who, despite outsized stigma and fear, are supporting their friends and loved ones living with HIV.

 

The PSA video features 5 HIV+ young people who are boldly speaking out against the stigma that people living with HIV still face today. On camera, these young people are given the chance to thank a hero in their lives for helping them through difficult moments in their journey, and unbeknownst to them, their heroes are hidden on set listening to the beautiful, warm thank-yous.

 

 

 

To find ways to support people living with HIV, head to http://hero.mtv.com, and make sure to tune-in to the premiere of “Quiet Heroes” on August 23rd at 8/7c on Logo.

 

More information on Quiet Heroes is included below, and visit hero.MTV.com to find more ways that you can support those living with HIV.


 

About Quiet Heroes:

 

Dr. Kristen Ries, an infectious disease specialist, arrived in Salt Lake City on June 5, 1981—the same day the Centers for Disease Control first published a report on what would become known as AIDS. By the next year, Ries would encounter her first patient with the disease. Because of stigma and fear surrounding both AIDS and homosexuality, Ries and her eventual partner, physician assistant Maggie Snyder, became the only medical professionals in Utah willing to treat the growing number of people with HIV/AIDS. These patients, facing certain death in the early years of the epidemic, often had to keep their status a secret or risk ostracism from their families, workplaces, and religious communities.

 

Chronicles of the AIDS epidemic have typically focused on cities with large gay populations, like New York and San Francisco. Quiet Heroes instead reveals the impact of the disease on a less obvious, more conservative location—one that perhaps better mirrored the rest of the country at the time—as it shares the evocative story of these unheralded caregivers and their patients.

 

As part of the three-time Emmy Award-winning Logo Documentary Films, Quiet Heroes will make its broadcast debut on August 23rd at 8/7c. The film, which had its’ world premiere at this year’s Sundance Film Festival, is directed and produced by Jenny Mackenzie, Jared Ruga, and Amanda Stoddard. Pamela Post and Taj Paxton serve as executive producers from Logo Documentary Films.


H/t: to MTv.com and MPRM Communications for the press release and information.

Are We Aging Out Of Remembering The Emotional Fight Against AIDS?

Being 44, I was not even sexually active when the AIDS crisis was in full swing.  Graduating from high school in 92 and not being sexually active until 24, I didn't worry about HIV/AIDS.  But to be honest, maybe that's one of the reasons I was not sexually active earlier, the fear of HIV/AIDS. 

When talking with older friends, I've heard them tell the stories of losing loves and relatives to AIDS.  I don't have that personal connection to AIDS related deaths.  I think a lot of us do not have that personal history of death as now our friends and exes are living without that threat, without the worry of dieing from HIV/AIDS, but more worried about health care costs.  It's no longer a death sentence for us here in the United States which is an amazing thing, but it is still a diesase.

Gareth Johnson, from MainlyMale.com, caught up with Ron Dyer to talk about his memories and experiences with HIV.


When were you diagnosed as having contracted HIV?

It was 1994. I’d come home to Indiana after all of the the friends I knew had died — I thought it best to come home and face what future I had left in a familiar place.

I met my lover, and we started an upholstery business. It did well, and we finished raising his two children and my nephew.

My lover became ill in 1994. We were both diagnosed as being positive, and both given a year to live. He died in 1996.

What are some of your memories of those early days of the pandemic?

I was living in Dallas. I was was young, and doing the party life. I’d moved there in 1975. In 1981 I started hearing rumors of gay men becoming ill . It was no one I knew, so didn’t pay much attention. But later that year my roommate became ill, was hospitalized, and died overnight. It became very confusing.

After my roommate’s passing, many friends started passing and the gay community became frightened and targeted by the straight community. There’s something about that combination that has always put the backbone in the gay community — it was clear that we weren’t going to get help from the general public. Medical staff looked like they had just stepped out of a space ship, in some areas it was a problem to even have funeral services.

It took time, but with the support of some wonderful nurses and doctors, the gay community eventually had the time and space to fight for better medications, and better health care and disability.

What was the political climate at that time?

Many were fighting for their lives, and living very short lives, and taking their own lives in what they thought to be a dignified way — it was heart breaking. As far as I know, Ronald Reagan or his administration never once mentioned the pandemic that ravaged the world during his time in office.

The treatment landscape for HIV has evolved over the years. Do you think it’s important that young gay guys understand our community’s past experience with this virus?

It’s very important — not just that young people know the history of this disease, but how they’re able to live with the freedoms they have.

You can go on any hook-up site and put in your profile that you’ve been tested or that you’re on PrEP and no one questions you, they’re ready to hook-up . You put on your profile that you’re positive, and it’s no thanks. Honesty is not welcome.

The stigma of this virus is still hurting us.

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We do need to remember our history.  We need to remember it so it does not repeat itself.  We need to realize what previous generations went through to help us get where we are today. Today, the fight involves pills and making sure costs are covered by health insurance. But as Dyer said, the HIV/AIDS stigma is still there.


Content republished with permission from Gareth Johnson

Originally from Australia, Gareth now lives in London. A non-smoker who loves to laugh, Gareth writes about all aspects of the LGBTQ experiences, with a particular passion for travel, sport, and films.

h/t: MailnyMale and Medium.com

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